Ex exchanging wedding vows can be both nerve-wracking and amazing moments on your special day.
Your vows are, in essence, a reminder of the main purpose of this celebration: to commit to your love. It’s a huge deal and comes with a lot of pressure.
Writing your wedding vows can seem daunting if you’re not a natural wordsmith. It doesn’t have to be difficult to find the right way to express your emotions. You might even find the process enjoyable once you learn how to get started.
We’ve collected some of the most useful tips and tricks to help you get inspired when writing your vows. Continue reading to learn how to create the perfect vows on your big day.
Select Your Wedding Vow Approach
Are you unsure of the direction you want to go when you exchange your vows?
The way you approach writing your wedding vows depends on your vision of the day and your personal preferences. Either you and your partner can write the same vows, or you can choose to create individual vows that will be shared on the wedding day.
You might consider all the pros and cons before putting pen to paper.
It can be much easier to share your vows with your partner. It removes the unwanted pressure and allows you to include important promises significant to you both.
This option removes the surprise element and can seem less personal.
Writing your vows can be intimidating and put you under more pressure. It is undeniably wonderful to hear your partner’s vows during your ceremony and see their reactions. ).
To determine the best approach, it’s best to have a conversation with your partner. This might be a good place to start if you don’t have a clear vision of your wedding.
First, agree on format and tone.
What tone do you want to project on your wedding day?
It doesn’t matter if you want to be serious and sentimental or light-heartedly and funny. You should agree on the tone of your vows before you start to make arrangements. This will ensure that you and your partner are on the right page. It’s not a good idea to let your emotions out in a heartfelt speech, only for your partner to respond with humorous jokes.
You can create a template that you both can use if you have chosen to write your vows. This will ensure that your vows are the same length, style, and tone but still allow you to surprise the couple.
A sample template could look something like this:
- Your first impression of your partner
- Three things you love about them
- Share a special memory
- 3 commitments or promises
- What you are looking forward to for the future
You can also create a template for vows with specific sentence starters like:
- When we first met…
- Your…
- I won’t forget…
- I will keep my word.
- I cannot wait to…
Using the same template will ensure that your vows flow together and make them easier to write.